Looking After Yourself

 

 

It is very common for people who care for a loved one with dementia to put their own needs to one side. Yet becoming a carer has an emotional, physical, and sometimes, financial impact.

Don't be afraid to take time out and treat yourself, because if you can't cope then it is difficult to look after your loved one. Carrie, Tipperary.

Looking after yourself is not selfish. When you look after yourself, everyone benefits. You feel better. You are able to be there for your loved one. You are able to be part of the lives of your family and friends. You and your loved ones can live well with dementia.

How do I look after myself?

Take Time out for you

• Acknowledge how you are feeling and the impact on your life and your relationships
• Keep a journal and talk to trusted family members, friends, or a counsellor.
• Make a conscious decision to include your needs in your daily and weekly routine
• Be nice to yourself. Remind yourself of all the things you do well.
• Keep up your social contact, plan outings and keep in touch with family and friends.
• Focus on what is possible, on the things you and your loved one can still do.

Build a Support Network

• Join a support group so you can meet other people caring for a loved one with dementia.
• Call the national Helpline or go online to a carer forum.
• Write down the things that you are finding difficult or would like some help with.
• Talk to friends and family, tell them about things that are going well and things that are difficult. 
• Find out about Services & Support in your area

Stop saying 'I can manage' and start saying ' I need help'  and keep your sense of humour! Margaret, Wexford

Take Care of your Health

• Eat a well balanced diet
• Take regular exercise
• See your GP regularily, particularily if you are feeling low, stressed anxious or are not sleeping.

Resources for you

• Looking after yourself
• Loss & grief when a family member has dementia
• Dementia Coping Skills for Carers Programme